So, it’s the day of your date.  If you’re overly anxious, relax.  Remember what I said about putting your best foot forward and looking your best?  See Guideline  3. 

Keep yourself busy to keep away those  thoughts of anxiety.  You’re perfect as you are, so no reason to second guess yourself.   Get yourself looking and smelling great – apply lightly some nicely scented perfume, don’t over-do it!

Don’t let your date pick you up at your front door.  He can either meet  you at your nearest road, or in the lobby of your apartment.  Or even at the restaurant.  It’s important to be safe and besides you don’t know where he lives yet….so why should he?

So show up and relax.  Now on the date, note the little things he does, is he thoughtful?  did he open the car door for  you? or did he just lounge in his car seat while he text you to tell  you he’s outside, without even making an effort to assist you into the car?  It’s the little things that reveal a person.  Just keep on observing…You’re in the restaurant, did he open the door,  pull out your chair?  Did he express chivalry in any way?

Keep your conversation light and don’t reveal too much of yourself, be playful and breezy.  Be fun to be around with no emphasis on your-self to impress.  That’s his job.  Give an air as if you’re used to being out on dates and exude an air of confidence.

If you get to date 4 with him, then you can start to open up and reveal  a bit more of yourself.

At the end of your first 3 dates, say goodbye in a light manner, a kiss on his cheek will do, especially for date 1. Date 2 or 3 you can accept a soft light kiss on the lips, nothing more.  Don’t show too much feeling, even though you may be dying to!  Remember you’re a nice bitch (babe in total control of herself).

Under no circumstances are you to mention or even allude to the word marriage in any shape or form.  If he’s interested in your views, let him mention this subject, remember he has to take the lead.  If he asks you what sort of man you’d  marry, you can respond lightly ‘never really thought about it, but he’d have to be pretty amazing’ which is true.

On your dates don’t speak about yourself in a negative way, for example telling him that your ex-partner treated  you terribly.  He’ll think you’re carrying baggage.

Don’t give him any information that isn’t his business.  Of course you can open up over time when he reveals his love for you but until then you’re pretty much a closed book.  Don’t think confiding all your faults and phobias before then will open up his heart to you, it’ll just push him away.  Too much, too soon.

If he asks you a question you don’t want to answer, let him know that you’d rather not speak about that now  and tactfully steer the conversation away from the topic.  Act independent, talk about your interest, gym, books, be softly flirty…you’re in control of how you open up.    More on this topic can be found in the book She’s Got That Vibe.

Now, last but not least, END THE DATE FIRST, this will leave him in a state of wanting more, it’s the ‘wanting more’ that’ll keep him smitten.  Don’t go into pursuance mode, which essentially means suggesting ways to extend the night or inviting him up for coffee, remember that’s his job and if it doesn’t happen it’s because it wasn’t mean to happen.