SGTV Ground Rule 13: Don’t Make Seeing You So Easy – Be A Challenge!
Football, basketball, baseball, a game of cards…what makes these games so irresistible to a man? They pose a challenge. Men love challenges. So be what he wants, a challenge! Simple.
In the beginning, when a man really likes you, he can be kind of intense, some play it cool, but more often than not they wouldn’t mind seeing you every day. However if you give in to this ‘too much, too soon,’ behaviour, he will become restless; you see he wants you to pace yourself in your revealing of who you are to him. It is often said men are the gas and women are the brakes.
So as a simple guideline when it comes to seeing him, follow this rule.
- Month 1 – once a week
- Month 2 – 2/3 a week
- Month 3 – 3/4 a week
- Month 4 – 4/5 a week
Thereafter NEVER more 4 times per week unless in the words of Beyonce, ‘he puts a ring on it’. Perfect prescription for you seeing your guy!
Now if you’re a woman, who doesn’t want to get married then you may think this article is not for you, but know this, this simple rule will serve you well if you want your man to respect and value you and your time.
You see a man needs to be ‘conditioned’ to feel that if he wants to see you more than 4 times a week he needs to make a commitment.
When your guy asks, ‘can we meet again tomorrow?’ respond nicely that you have ‘other plans’ and you do as he’s not your only life interest… is he?
I have found that men that get ‘angry’ with you are those that are ‘selfish’ and only after fun or sex. They want you in ‘their’ time. A genuine man is prepared to wait or you in ‘your time’ if he sees you as his dream girl.
Another thing to be wary of…men that ‘future talk.’ For example,
I once had a boyfriend that said ‘Oh I’ve got a great summer planned out for us’. You think to yourself ‘oh how sweet’, as he gives the illusion he’s plotting out your lives together’.
Or men who say ‘I’ve got a surprise planned for you,’ which never materialises.
Or here’s another one, ‘let’s look in this shop window and have a look at the kind of ring you’d like, if we were to get married one day’.
Ladies, as I said ‘beware’ it’s all bullshit, especially if it’s on your first, second, or third date. It’s just a tactic to get you into bed. Don’t fall for his lines.
Yes! you are being hard to get, but I tell you what, it’ll weed out all the time-wasters who won’t want to hand around you when they can’t get what they want.
Nothing is worse than seeing a guy you care deeply for ‘fall out of love with you’ all because you didn’t adhere to this simple, yet often tough, guideline.
More on ‘too much, too soon’ in She’s Got That Vibe Book.
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