SGTV Guideline 5: Wait Till He Asks You To Dance!
Do you remember guideline 1 where I mentioned that men are the pursuer. I wrote about the fact that it is the sperm that chases the egg? That we should never make anything happen. That we should trust in the natural order and laws of God’s universe – simply that men were designed to chase women?
When we don’t fall in line with that natural law and in effect go against the flow – i.e. approaching and pursuing men; we interfere with God’s purpose and cause a conversation or a date that was never meant to be, not only causing us to waste time but unnecessary pain with someone who could have been avoided, had we stood still and held our ground.
I know a girl once and I am sure we all do, that did not follow this natural law. Had she not initiated it, she would never have put herself in the way of knowing this guy in the first place. If you do this, and you look half-way decent, not many men are going to say no to you, however they will drop you when their dream girl comes along, the one they really want. The one that they want to pursue, the one that was meant to be. Women chase men and then justify it! Oh he’s too busy, too shy, too short-sighted, lol. Anything to justify our actions. But listen up ladies, if a man wants you, not even wild horses could drag him away. Let the sperm swim the distance to get to you, don’t shorten the distance by getting in its path, making it easy for him! Notice how a man will go out of his way to pick up his new car or his new private number plate, are you not worth more than this, so why go to him? Let him cover the distance and come to you!
When you’re out at a dance, don’t place yourself next to a man you fancy and become like a tree, that can’t move! This is an act of ‘pursuing’ Don’t ask a man for a dance – he’ll be flattered but won’t want you in a crazy sense of way. Even if you two do hook up, the fact that it was you that pursued him or made the first move will permeate the energy between you. You have to wait for him to notice you and approach you.
If someone you like has not asked you to dance, then there’s a good reason why, you don’t need to figure out why. Just move on. Have no expectations, but whatever you do, do not break this guideline. We live in a world where women are the aggressors in the workplace but there is no place for this in the romantic arena. Women need to be passive and wait. Wait for the man to take the lead.
When we like someone we naturally tend to relax and act more available, for example we may ask a colleague or someone we like at work for lunch, when it’s something that could easily be sorted with an email or a phone call. Men see completely through this and they recognise straightaway that you are pursuing them….So what other things are you doing?…that would come under the act of pursuing. As usual your comments are welcomed!
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