SGTV Ground Rule 15: Don’t Try To Pussy Whip Your Man!
One of the worst things you can do in a relationship is to attempt to emasculate your man by telling him what to do. He’s a man, not your boy. Some of y’all women want to pussy-whip your man!
Let your man be a man. If you don’t like what he is doing take responsibility of yourself and change your actions, don’t try to change his.
If a man does what you want him to do at your request, it’s likely that he’ll do it out of obligation but as his resentment builds he’ll disappear like a puff of smoke! Vamoosh! Don’t think that in your asking of him to do a thing, contrary to what he wants to do, means he’s changed his mind!
My friend Jenny didn’t want her boyfriend Ray to go down to the pub and link with his friends. She said she felt ‘left out’ and ‘unloved’. He stayed in to keep her happy but after some weeks of this, this attempt at pussy whipping failed, his resentment grew and he upped and left. Men, just like us women, resent being manipulated and need to be free to be a man.
- Don’t try to fix your man – accept him or date someone else
- Don’t try to fix his clothes by changing his wardrobe – nothing wrong with a bit of advice or ‘gifts’
- Don’t force yourself on his friends and family – let him introduce you when he is ready
- Don’t be pushy.
In fact, always let the man take the lead in the relationship. Show him yours, if he shows you his, let him lead the dating dance.
I know I’ve emphasized this so many times HE MUST TAKE THE LEAD IN THE RELATIONSHIP. If you’re dating, this includes allowing him to be the first one to say ‘I miss you’ or ‘I love you’ or ‘I can’t wait to introduce you to…anyway…back on topic…
Accept Him For Who He Is:
Now let me let you into a little secret. MEN DON’T CHANGE. I always say men are like curly hair that’s been chemically straightened; after a while your hair reverts straight back to its original state! If a man changes, it’s not because you’ve changed him, it’s because he CHOOSES to change.
If he doesn’t meet your expectations, ‘accept him for who he is’ and make your decisions based on what you observe. Stop wasting time trying to change a man, don’t nag or bend his ear, there are millions of men on the planet, if it’s not him, attract one who is more suited to you. I always say your ‘emotions’ betray you, even when logic is staring you in the face.
If your man of interest has certain traits that you’re not happy with, think long and hard if he’s worth your time, cause at the end of the day you’re the one doing the dating or in a relationship and no-one can decide for you. If you feel you need to walk away then do it.
For the record, the definition of ‘pussy whipped’ here is: When a man is controlled by his woman or when a woman tells a man to do everything and he does it!
Think hard…Is this really the type of man you want for yourself?
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