Now, I can hear some of you saying…’well…when is the right time’?  Hold that thought I’ll get to that.

Remember I mentioned in my last article that men are the gas and women are the brakes?  That men want it upfront as fast as possible?  Well it’s your job to slow him down and it’s for your own good.  Especially if you like him and are looking for that long term relationship.

Have you ever been  watching a movie and someone pipes up the ending, ‘oh! that guy dies in the end’!  giving up the finale even before you’ve really had the pleasure of unfolding the plot?  What a killjoy right?  Well that’s the feeling you get when you give up the cookie too soon.

First date, give him a kiss, no tongues! (and you may meet a guy that you really find attractive, but restraint is key)

I know it’s difficult to do, especially when your hormones are raging and he’s so deliciously attractive and the chemistry is high but even more reason why you must, because you’re at your most vulnerable.

Any more than a casual kiss, will make it harder for you to control things getting too much, too hot, right away.  If you’re struggling on your first date, end it quickly and if dropped home, do not invite him up for coffee.

He may be accustomed to sleeping on a first date, but in you withholding yourself, it makes you stand out as different, a swan amongst pigeons.  A man that really likes you will respect your boundaries.  If a man gets angry with you, then hey, the only rules that he’s respecting is his.  If he’s a gentleman  he’ll never try to force you to do something that you don’t  want to.  Besides anger can mean he’s interested, so he’ll be prepared to wait.

So when is the right time…?

If you’re a young lady, late teens or a virgin, wait until you’re in a committed  relationship.

Older woman – 2/3 months minimum is good.

Don’t do pre-marital sex?…then good for you.

Now it stands to reason that if I’m advising against  French kissing on a first date, then sex on a first date is a definite NO NO.  Why take the risk of him viewing you as easy?  Sure you could say, I’ll take the risk!… but then be prepared, that  you may not get that call.

Some women make out like that they don’t care about the call, but if you like him, you would want him to call and if you don’t like him, why sleep with him?  Wait until  you’re sure before having sex.

It’s like playing £10,000 in a game at a casino and squinting your eye, hoping you’re gonna’ win that jackpot!  Seriously…why take that risk with your biggest asset?  You know you’re not looking for ‘just sex’ in exchange.  You’re worth more than that.  Simple rule is, if you don’t want to feel insecure then don’t do it, as you’ll only attract more reasons to feel that way.

It’s all about how you feel, which is dictated by your mindset.  More on this at SGTV

Summary:  Sex too soon can spoil a budding relationship!

Question:  Would you consider sleeping with him on a first date?

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