In these modern days it’s totally acceptable for a woman to move in with a man.  But does it really shout ‘real commitment?’ or is it a route to disposable marriages.

I suppose couples do it cause its more ‘convenient’ or easier on the purse strings or for a ‘trial period’, just to see if it works out.

Ladies, the ground rule here is simple. If you’re looking for marriage, forget living with a man.  My ground rule on this one, says DON’T.

The traditional mother wasn’t so wrong when she said, don’t live with a man unless you’re wedded.

In opposition to popular belief, a trial period is not for him to make up his mind about you.  Why would you even dream about living with him unless he loves you.  It’s either he does or he doesn’t.

The best way for a man to determine if he loves you is to not see you at all.  It’s absence that makes a man fonder. When you dump a man, he likes you a whole lot better and if he loves you, he’ll beg for you to come back. If he doesn’t, then your ‘bye’ wasn’t in vain!

I’ve known so many women that have gone down this route, only for 3-5 years later, to smell the roses and realise they’re not getting the commitment they hoped for; leaving their self-esteem and sense of self- worth in tatters, not to mention a lot of wasted time!

Women, please don’t delude yourself into thinking that living together will bring about a real commitment.

Men tend to propose when they’re afraid of losing you.  You must have heard the expression ‘why buy the ice-cream cart if you’re giving away the ice-cream for free!’  A little distance and difficulty is good for him…and for you.

Seeing him once or twice a week is good enough.  When you visit him, he’s the one that should be going out of his way to provide space for your toothbrush and a few clothes, that’s his domain, that’s pursuant mode!  Let him take the lead, that way he won’t feel as if you’re invading his space, as I all-too-often hear men complain about out.

Yeah, you know what I’m talking about ladies, accidentally leaving behind your lipstick, hairbrush and smalls …before he knows it, he’s got a closet full of your stuff!

Now, remember, an SGTV lady is independent.  She doesn’t need his space, she’s got her own.

So, you’re probably wondering is there ANY reason why you should live with a man and he’s not yet set a wedding date?  YES there is – when you’re not sure about him and you want to trial him out.  However there is a downside, if you’re not that into him, it will limit your ability to go on dates with other guys and you may miss out on meeting that one special man you’re crazy about.