Dating a married man is a no-no! It reduces your self-respect and is a waste of your time and that includes, even, if he says he’s separated. So why do so many women do it? They cling to hope like it’s an addiction. Hoping that one day he will be theirs.

Of course there are exceptions to the rule: that separated man may be yours  one day and as we know, some women enjoy being the mistress, believing they get all the perks…

However, if you’re the type of woman looking for real commitment, don’t be stupid enough to go down this path and when I say stupid, I mean STUPID. That chemistry that you may feel for that married man, plays havoc with your brain chemicals, all sense goes through the window even though all the evidence is right there, plain as the nose on your face. Evidence that he’s messing with you!

Listen, i’m not judging you.  I’m speaking from experience!  He told me he was separated and all that oxytoxin running through my veins, addled my blood and made me stupid.

This Mr Unavailable will have you tied up in knots and you won’t know your ass from your face, as you waste time waiting for him to be fully yours.

Forget special holidays, Christmas, Easter, Birthdays (if he can’t get away) and here’s a big one Valentines. Girlfriend wake up, you will always be second!

In the beginning, there’s great sex and promises of a future together with ever-changing deadlines, but as you begin to cotton on, he will withdraw from you, the game is up and has indeed drawn to a close.

So you may ask ‘what if he really is separated?’ Don’t fool yourself, you are affecting a marriage. You’re meddling. What of his wife? What goes round comes round, and not in the way you expect. Wait until the path is well and truly clear and he is divorced. Keep in mind that you only know what he tells you.

You already know that he’s a liar, because he’s living a lie with his wife and children, keeping up a façade. How can you know for sure whether you’re the only “other woman” he has? He says he’s separated. Ever been to his house? Or has he provided you with a ‘plausible’ excuse for not taking you round? Takes you round to a friend and says that’s where he stays?  Think about it, what is his excuse?   Girlfriend, it’s time to smell the roses and entertain the possibility that he is lying to you, and you are being used!

I make NO apology for being so blunt, but I always say, your heart will betray you, because your brain knows the truth and your heart ignores the facts or should i say ‘lack of it’.

Break off this relationship NOW. And yes, if you ever find yourself or are in this situation, you will feel absolutely devastated and broken-hearted when you do…because he’s oh so familiar. His smell, the way he talks, the way he walks, carries himself, the way he laughs, the things you do, the way you sex but you need space and time to get really clear about what YOU want and to disengage yourself from dancing to the beat of his drum.

The most important relationship you’ll ever have is the one you have with yourself and eventually, you’ll fall in love again with the man who is perfect for you, with someone who’s willing to make you first in his life!…But you have to believe it.

SGTV girls don’t date married men. Practice restraint, say NO and keep on walking with your head held high. You’re a woman with options to explore!