My dating advice here is, do it in ‘natural’ time.  So what do I mean by ‘natural’ time?  If you’re out at a dance or a social event and a guy asks for your number, no need to blurt out ‘I’ve got 2 kids! that’s ‘unnatural time’  Just chill.  It really isn’t necessary.

As a mother, my daughter is 20 years old, I have only ever introduced my daughter to ‘serious contenders’ and I do that because I see it as a privilege for my date to meet my child.

When out dating, keep the conversation about your kids to a minimum, your dating time is an opportunity to explore one another and see if you’re compatible.

Do you remember the rule about avoiding ‘too much, too soon?’ keep your conversation light and keep the pain of your past relationship to yourself, he doesn’t need to know if your child’s father isn’t paying alimony. No need to go into chapter and verse about how the kids are misbehaving. Don’t open up too fast, be mysterious.

When you do mention your kids, keep it light and casual; if you’re on the phone, you can say something like ‘oh that’s Rupert playing video games in the background’.  You don’t have to make it an event to tell a man about your kids.

If he asks you out to dinner and you have to arrange a babysitter, that’s your business, he doesn’t need to hear about how you’ve been trying to get hold of her all day and you’re not sure.  Keep the ‘long talk’ as a friend of mine likes to say, to yourself.  Keep it brief, ‘Saturday night is fine, thank you’.

Rest assured that I am in no way telling you to hide your kids, I’m simply saying, it’s not his business, until such time he becomes a serious contender and you won’t know that until a few dates or maybe immediately!  Your child does not need to meet every Tom, Dick and Harry…you get my drift.

Ladies, have fun, observe the ground rules I’ve given you and do not use your ‘mother’ status as a reason to not get out there and mingle and have fun!  There are loads of delicious guys out there, dying to meet an SGTV woman like you.