SGTV Guideline 7: Are You Making Yourself Too Easy?
The WORST thing you can do is make yourself easy for a man. Men love challenges, in my book She’s Got That Vibe, I explain that’s why men love sports, hunting, and competition. So don’t make it easy for a man, you’re emasculating him when you do so.
When a man wants to meet you, let him do all the work, research where to take you, come pick you up ! When men work hard to see you, they feel good within themselves; why deny them the pleasure? Don’t suggest a restaurant unless they ASK you. Don’t do much at all, except get your vibe on by reading these articles and preparing your mind-set by picking up a copy of She’s Got That Vibe. All you need to do is prepare your mind with your guidelines and set boundaries.
Men need to be inconvenienced!
- They need to rearrange their schedules to meet you
- Take cabs to see you
- Drive 50 miles out of their way to see you
- Call you, text you.
Listen! Men need to be inconvenienced. ‘Inconvenience for a man’ = ‘value of you’ If he didn’t think you were worth it, then simply he wouldn’t. So no, you don’t need to …
- Drive and meet him half way
- Go Dutch on a date
If your date is a student, better he take you somewhere less expensive that allows him to pay for the whole meal than you contribute to half. It’s all about letting him not treat you as a ‘friend’ or colleague’. In the romantic arena he pays the price for being with you.
It’s great to care about a man’s finances, you can always suggest something in your area less expensive, if you feel guilty, like a drink perhaps – but he comes to you. After, say, three dates you can always reciprocate in other ways like cook him dinner, do it in your own light way.
I once dated this guy, one day sat at dinner in a nice restaurant, he mentioned that his ex-girlfriend worked nearby. He said she was a business owner and the few occasions they went out ‘she’d pay for the drinks, she was good like that!’ I don’t know whether he was hinting that I should pay for my drinks but what I did know, is that was a good insight into his character. Safe to say, I played by the guidelines and thought you get to pay for me baby, I’m not your co-worker! Some men will try it!
Be positive on your date and appreciate all the good in your date. Don’t complain and criticise. Be warm, fun and breezy. The She’s Got That Vibe Lady!
So in summary, train your potential man’s behaviour upfront. Don’t feel guilty at inconveniencing him, you’re doing him a favour, he’ll love you for it! Let him come to you. Always keep in mind, you’re an egg and he ought to be swimming in your direction, just like God intentioned it. You don’t get to swim for God never designed you that way.
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