SGTV Guideline 8: Girlfriend…Don’t You Dare Call Him.
To call men is to pursue men. Don’t do it!……..Why?
- They’ll know straight-away that you ‘re interested in them – never let a man feel that he has your 100% interest, he could possibly lose his
- You lose your elusive factor
- He doesn’t have to work or should I say ‘swim’ that hard to get you
- You may catch him when he’s not able to speak, he could be in a meeting or watching football, which invariably means he will end the call first, leaving you hanging…
- Which may cause you to think all sorts of things such as ‘maybe he’s with another woman’! Mistaking his busy-ness for lack of interest.
- He may not return your call
- He may not ask you out
- Your nervousness or unrest may cause you to break the guidelines and call him again!
So, don’t call a man to just have a chat, call him only to rearrange a date or something like that. You see when you don’t call a man it leaves him in a state of wanting to hear from you, gives you more time to unveil who you are. The more a man’s mind is engaged on thoughts about you, the more he’ll become besotted by you.
If he calls you, don’t call him back. Seem rude? I used to think so, until I realised that guys won’t think that, they’ll just think you’re the busy bee, you are, thus hard to get hold off!…So they’ll call again…
When a man calls you, he’s calling you because he wants to – no-one forced his hand! He has taken the time to call you, he’s the aggressor. If he calls you, guess who gets to cut the call, cause you’re busy, thus making him want you more.
Now as an SGTV lady, if we do have to return calls, we don’t return them immediately. We wait. Don’t want to appear too needy…and when you do keep it short and sweet!
A man should always give you an absolute minimum of 2 ‘clear days’ notice before the night of a date. So if he invites you out Friday night, he should ask you by Tuesday evening. If it’s a Saturday night that he wishes to have your presence then he should ask you the latest by Wednesday. Any day after that you’ve made plans! A man has to learn that if he doesn’t ask you out early then hey you’re busy girlfriend!
Don’t say things like,’ oh if you’d called earlier’ ….no, you just say ‘that would have been so nice…but I can’t. A nice sweet answer.
In the early stages, if he really likes you, he’ll be re-scheduling his life to fit you in. This may take a couple weeks, so don’t feel impatient if he doesn’t call you as you’d like. Just be patent and wait for him to contact you. Don’t be tempted to call for any reason whatsoever, just be nice and friendly when he does. If he doesn’t… Next! Remember if he really wants you, he would have called.
Tip: If dating and you’re dying to hear his voice, listen to that saved, recorded message of his voice on your voice-mail, you know you do that ladies lol, perfect for those weak moments! It works every time!
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